The book advocates personal freedom of beliefs and agreements we have made with ourselves and others that create restrictions and misfortunes in our lives.  It was broadcast on Oprah`s television.  The four chords are: some of my favorite takeaways from this chord: “Don`t eat other people`s emotional garbage! – Stop inflicting unnecessary suffering on me. – Choose to always follow my listening. Don`t take anything personally. This is the second chord of Don Miguel Ruiz`s classic, the four chords. I need a memory today. So I open his book to this chapter and read: All that said, when you are in friendship with someone whose words or actions are harmful to you, it is healthy to set boundaries, create limits, and honor yourself. You can experience great feelings, and they are all real and valid. Feeling hurt doesn`t mean taking something in person.
My perspective is different from your point of view, and while we may share a multitude of commonalities and connections, your actions, thoughts, and words are not about me. No matter what a friend posts on IG, tells me at the coffee shop, or thinks about how I dress, for example, it`s NOT About Me. (Pointing out that it`s still pretty hard for me to achieve, and I guess I`m not alone.) If I personally take something a friend does, I center myself, use limited information to jump to conclusions, and ignore their experience and perspective.